Winning Formulae To Save A Troubled Relationship

In the days when marriage is increasingly considered an obsolete, redundant institution, It is really heart-warming to find people who still care enough to try and save their troubled relationship. It is sad when a loving relationship, that you consider your life-breath, crumbles to a stage where it needs resuscitation. However, there is a lot that can be salvaged given a sincere effort and desire. Walking away is the easiest thing to do. It takes a lot of courage to acknowledge your own faults and show a mirror to your partner.

I've been married 13 years now and no matter how madly we feel in love, life isn't always sweet, happy and romantic. We take offences, we disagree, we have our spats and at times they turn nasty. But one thing we try not doing...stop talking. One of my regular readers, Jane Philips (pardon me the mention Jane) recently wrote why I so often reiterate that I am married for 13 years. Well, it gives me a feel that my wife is part of my work and a kick to my confidence for being a long-term survivor (Wifey should not read this post I guess :). Anyways, the point is that communication gaps can fuel a simple altercation till it becomes a serious conflict. When people don't talk to each other they talk to themselves. And most often all they tell themselves is that their partner just does not care. Often you can't just go and force a conversation. You need a method when dealing with a lot of madness. We Can Work It Out is a book that is all about resolving conflicts and saving your marriage.

We Can Work It Out is not just inspired text. This book is based on extensive research on what makes people happy and unhappy in their relationships. The book helps you understand what's wrong in a relationship and then guides you how to resolve the issues through strategies tried and tested by psychologists and counselors the world over. In fact this is about as good as consulting a real counselor...especially when your partner refuses to be even dragged there by force. This book not only helps you troubleshoot an knotty relationship, it also helps you keep your marriage divorce-proof (amen!) even if you are facing no such issues as of now. As they say, the best precaution is prevention of course. You think you would like to take a look? Go here!

Before I sign off for today, let me tell you about another very potent book I found on relationships. This one is about winning back an estranged lover. Bring Back The Love Of Your Life is a lean book of practical strategies to deal quickly and effectively with problems like infidelity issues, indifferent partner, frequent fights and avoiding a potential divorce. So God forbid if you are drifting apart, start getting closer now. Check it out!

How to Get Over a Broken Relationship

It takes a lot of time and commitment to build a relationship…and make it last. In every culture and society, marriages are solemnized with a certain set of vows. I find it rather amazing that though we often go way out of our way to live up a simple promise made to a friend, we hardly ever refresh those simple pledges that secure our relationship. There are a thousand theories about why relationships end. I believe that the market culture of use-and-throw is catching up with our personal lives. People have little time to mend a ruffled emotion or fix a bruised heart. They often just move on and find a new one to pleasure.

I don’t say people don’t suffer the end of a relationship. They do…and often innocent young lives are also traumatized for no fault of theirs. In retrospect I wonder how many of us want to wish away that one moment of madness when we spilt our ways for good. In any case, a broken relationship can be quite shattering and it often requires a lot of assistance and support to gather all the split ends. This is what When Your Relationship Ends is all about.

When Your Relationship Ends is a book written by Dr Bruce Fisher, a world acclaimed divorce therapist, author and teacher. Dr Fisher’s ‘Fisher Divorce Adjustment Scale’ is accepted worldwide as a measure of adjustment to the termination of a love relationship. This is one book you can turn to if you have poured your heart out to friends and family and still can’t find a way to get over the end of a relationship. In my opinion the best time to go through this book is when you still have a relationship. This can also help you see how you are contributing to its end rather than just heaping the blame on your partner. You think you would like to take a look? Go here!

I leave you with another priceless resource - 1000 Questions for Couples - to keep your relationship in good shape. Lack or lapse of communication is one of the leading contributors to relationships going sour. Counselors agree that a majority of divorces are avoidable only if couples ask each other the right questions. Wondering what to ask? Check it out!

How to Handle the Problem of Infidelity in Relationships

Romance is the essence of a healthy, satisfying married life. However, increasingly people are seeking it outside their existing relationship. Numerous studies suggest that even with people who got married after being madly in love, the desire for a new fling inevitably surfaces after a few years…or in some cases even months. Finding a person attractive is a natural human instinct. However, when you are in a relationship there is a fine line between being playfully appreciative and cheating.

Divorce rates are rising worldwide (see http://www.divorcemag.com/statistics/statsWorld.shtml) and every single divorce takes its toll on at least one partner (if not both) and of course the children who face enormous trauma for no fault of theirs. Infidelity is one of the leading causes of broken marriages. Latest studies suggest that 50-60% of all married men and 45-55% of all married women engage in extramarital affairs at one time or another. This issue must be handled carefully, whether you decide to walk away or save your marriage.

Here is a book written by Dr Reena Sommer, PhD in Psychology and Family Studies and a practicing Relationship and Divorce Consultant. This book can help you spot early warning signs of infidelity and take proactive measures to mend the damage before it’s too late. It also helps you collect yourself if you are already going through this difficult time and regain your self-esteem and confidence to take a suitable step. This can also help you keep that spice alive in your relationship so your partner has no reason to get distracted. I found this a complete package to avoid, handle and get over the ordeal of infidelity. You think you would like to take a look? Go here!

Ideas For The Best Wedding Speeches

Besides all the customary gaiety and confusion that marks a typical wedding, six people have something more to worry about. I am talking about the two lovebirds (read Bride and Groom), Pappy and Momma of the bride, Maid of Honor and that Best Man who gives you lucid nightmares about a misplaced ring…till he finally digs it out of his pocket. These six people raise those toasts that often mark the most unforgettable (or wish-you-could-forget) moments of a wedding. Yes, I am talking about Wedding Speeches.

In my 37 years I was married just once, 13 years ago. Still I find weddings very special occasions and feel like going through the entire sequence all over again - with my own wife (of course!) – just hoping this time I will get time to shave before I pop up at her place and remember the names of all her 17 Uncles! Alas! Some things in life don’t offer you a second chance. Usually a wedding happens once in a lifetime between two given people and I wish it is a memorable occasion for every couple who decide to spend their lives together. Wedding speeches are special and you never get that audience and that moment again. So you better be prepared.

I came across this set of books that offer professionally written, customizable (hate to use this term) speeches that you can use to charm any audience at a wedding. Besides giving you ready-to-use speeches, you get enough guidance to create your own inspirational work of art. And it’s not all about just speeches. You also get very useful tips on social conduct and etiquette at a wedding. I find it just too snug to be my regular disheveled self, but actually there is no harm is appearing immaculate at such a lovely occasion. All in all, I found this a rather neat package.

You think you would like to take a look? Go here!

For Women Only - How To Get Your Man Back!

After being married for 13 years I think I do understand what a relationship means. I mean we are a normal couple and have our own sweet and sour moments. At times more sour than sweet…but she means a lot to me. When I came across this book – How Do I Get Him Back – My first reaction was why there is such a book only for women? I mean do only women yearn for an estranged loved one? I yearn for my wife even when she goes over to my in-laws place for a weekend…even if it only because I am absolutely hopeless at keeping house :)

Jokes apart, I would really like to see such a book for men too. C’mon people, guys get heartbroken too. A guy can also want his gal back! Anyways, I have huge respect for any individual's free will. So unfortunately if your partner has drifted away, before wanting him back just sit back and consider if it was good riddance?! If not, go ahead try this book. It will definitely help you.

The writer is a Licensed Professional Counselor and offers some very practical advice on breathing new life in a dying or dead relationship. One thing I liked is that it doesn’t talk about sorcery or a generic solution to everybody’s relationship problems. The book aims to give you an insight to probable causes, helps you nail-down the problem and then offers practical advice on how to get your man back. I hope he’s worth it and wish you all the best in keeping your man and your marriage together! You think you would like to take a look? Go here!